When you first met your husband or wife, they may have been the most attractive and exceptional person you ever met. It probably was love at first sight with an immediate passionate connection between the two of you. The relationship probably settled in a routine after awhile when the both of you got too busy in the business of daily living. Passion ebbed away into routine or infrequent sex, or maybe none at all. If you're both still young, that is not a good sign. There could be an affair waiting to happen or an affair already happening.
An affair happens for many reasons and sometimes for no reason at all. Most of the time the cheater does not think they will get caught, but after a while the signs of the affair leaks out anyway. If you are alert you can catch some suspicious signs.
We've all heard about the typical signs such as new haircut, looking good, obsessive interest in exercise or going to the gym, losing weight, new clothes, new slang, or maybe sudden new hobbies with new friends. Not all of these mean that an affair is going on, but with most of these in combination with each other and your partner's new and improved happy mood, you need to beware.
Has your partner lost interest in attending church with you? Working late especially on holidays or weekends? Here's one: they can't wait to get to work every day (maybe leaves very early) because the person of interest is in the workplace. Do they brag about how wonderful a certain coworker seems?
Here's some tips about telephone behavior. Do they often make phone calls out of earshot and get irritated if you're nearby? Something's going on there. Do you get hang up calls a lot on your phone? Another sign is they always persist on picking up the phone when it rings. Not a good idea if you do.
If you find that you're constantly turned down for a romantic date you want to plan for you and your spouse, it's time to get suspicious. And how about when they refuse to say the words "I love you" or "I love you too"? Any avoidance of affection or attempts for you to get close to them is a very obvious warning sign to you.
And look out for when they make new acquaintances going through a difficult separation or divorce. And are they critical and finding fault with you and avoids being alone with you? Has to leave the house at odd hours for so-called errands, which they never did before? Are they really hard to pin down on anything, and forgetful to a fault when they were never that way before?
These just some of the signs of cheating in a relationship that you must know about. Start observing your partner's behavior changes and new routines that seem peculiar that just don't make sense. Be prepared to deal with it, either with a direct confrontation, or better yet discuss it with a relationship counselor who can guide you in the right direction to make the decision that's best for you and your family.
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