Tuesday, August 31, 2010

Hum Do 2 Humara Show Promo ID

HUM 2 Humara Show (Live Weekend Brunch Show) Mani and Hira are a recently married couple with a baby, their lounge is an open house for all, celebs, experts and common people share brunch with them exploring issues that surround everyday married life. The couple is always seen in the lounge where in they are battling some odd issue between them and a celeb walks in. The celebrity also takes part in the issue that is the focus of the couple for the day and share his/her views. This takes away the pressure from the stars who are witnessed across all channels repeating the same self biographies by focusing on issues that surround all of us. The show also has many interactive avenues for the audience, along with outdoor segments that are fresh and add to the shows overall feel. Watch Every Saturday & Sunday at 11:00 AM only on HUM TV Directed by Hajji Al Balos Script & Produced by Sanam Mehdi Rizvi Creative Manager Deebaj Rizvi email: h2sh@hum.tv www.hum.tv

Monday, August 30, 2010

Laura Rider's Masterpiece Is Jane Hamilton's Masterpiece

Jane Hamilton brings us Laura Rider, a Midwesterner, and her husband Charlie, who together run a successful nursery with Laura really running things while Charlie is content to do the manual labor. They have been married 12 years and the sexual spark has gone out of the marriage, especially for Laura. They don't sleep together anymore, mostly because of Laura, but the plan seems to be OK for both of them, or so it seems on the surface. This is such an odd situation considering Laura really wants to be a romance novelist. Where ever will she get information and do research if she is locking her husband out of their bedroom?

To Laura, the excitement and chance at writing her romance novel comes when a radio host, Jenna Faroli, comes to town with her show. Laura has always enjoyed Jenna's shows and is thrilled that she is now living in their little town of Hartley. When Charlie and Laura do happen to meet Jenna one day, it dawns on Jenna that if she can build a relationship between Charlie and Jenna, she would have the material she needs for a great romance novel. Laura persuades Charlie to email Jenna and things heat up fast as their emails turn from simple to very intimate. As one might suspect, Jenna starts to fall in love with Charlie, or at least the Charlie who writes to her. This turns out to be just what Laura thinks she wants, as she will be able to study and write about how the relationship started and grew. She will write what a woman wants in a man and have proof of it, at least in her mind! Laura doesn't stop to think about the consequences of what she is doing. When Jenna and Charlie's relationship blossoms, it is not something this gardener can deal with. What Laura does and how Charlie and Jenna wind up is what makes this book tick.

Readers are brought into this book and you get very involved on many levels. This is more than the comedic review may sound. Laura is dealing with deep emotional baggage and the layers of each character are peeled away and readers can get down to what all is really going on in this novel beside what you read about on the surface. If you want a cute, funny little beach read filled with lovable characters, you may need to look further. However, if you want to read about a story that will involve you and have your loyalties and emotions constantly changing, then Laura Hamilton's LAURA RIDER'S MASTERPIECE will give you the ride of your life!

Sunday, August 29, 2010

Learn to Forgive Yourself For Cheating

If you cheat on your spouse, it will take a heavy toll on you, and you are likely to feel very bad with yourself. You will feel even worse if you truly love your partner. You may go through life feeling as if you are the very epitome of evil. This is why you should learn to forgive yourself for cheating if you want to move on with unclouded mind.

If you have cheated on your spouse, you will need to take measures that will help to repair your relationship. If you love your partner yet you cheated, it shows that there is something you needed that lacked in the relationship. You should take a critical look at your relationship to determine that missing ingredient and find ways of solving the matter fast.

There are some important decisions you will need to make when you want to forgive yourself for cheating. In case your partner is not aware of the affair, you will need to decide whether it is appropriate to talk about it or not.

Should you tell?

While you may feel that you should let your spouse know about your affair, you should weigh things well before you take the step. What is your real motive behind telling about your cheating? Are you trying to be open with your partner or do you just want to exorcise the ghosts that are haunting you? If it is the guilt you feel that prompts you to admit your cheating ways to your partner then you have started on a wrong footing.

You need to be very honest about the reasons why you want to tell your partner. Do not think that doing so will make it any easier for you to forgive yourself. You should learn to forgive yourself without involving your partner.

How do you start to forgive yourself?

Perform good things for other people, your spouse being one of them. The little things you do that show your thoughtfulness and kindness have greater impact that they are often credited for. They will go a long way in helping you to forgive yourself.

Forgive your spouse too

This may sound odd since you are the one who cheated on your partner. However, people do not often cheat just for the sake of cheating. If you went this far, there are high chances that there is something you were not getting from your relationship. You should therefore forgive your spouse for not giving you what you needed, which prompted you to have an affair. You should then teach yourself how to make your needs known so that your partner can fulfill them.

You will need to move ahead without getting stuck in the rut of thinking about your past failures all the time.

Saturday, August 28, 2010

California Divorce Forms

When you are resident of California and filing for divorce, you would need to ensure to follow instructions by using California Divorce Forms that will guide you through right direction, which are Annotated California Code; Sections 297, 298, 2320, and 2339.

Residency Requirements for California Divorce

The spouse who is filing for dissolution of marriage must have been a resident of the state for at least 6 months and also have been a resident of the county where the dissolution of marriage is filed for 3 months. Also, before the dissolution of marriage becomes final, additional waiting period of 6 months are required after the service of process or the respondent's appearance happens.

Under California Family Code Section 297, partners of a "domestic partnership" may terminate their partnership each other by using legal forms available from any county clerk or the Secretary of State's office.

Legal Separation grounds in California

In California, the grounds for obtaining a legal separation are 2 folds:

Irreconcilable differences or Incurable insanity.

It is required that the spouse filing for legal separation must have been a resident of the state for 6 months and a resident of the county for 3 months where the legal separation action is filed for.

Above case is specified in Annotated California Code; Sections 2310 and 2320.

Simplified/Special Divorce Procedures in California

In case of marriages of 5 years or less might be dissolved by summary action. You can file a Joint Petition for Summary Dissolution of Marriage if:


Either spouse has met the requirement of residency for a standard dissolution of marriage
There is an irremediable breakdown of the marriage because of irreconcilable differences
There are no children born of or adopted while the marriage continued
The wife is not currently pregnant
Neither spouse owns any real estate property
There are no unpaid debts that are exceeding $4,000 incurred during the marriage
The community property's total value (including any deferred compensation or retirement plans but excluding cars and loans) is less than $25,000
Neither spouse has separate property (excluding cars and loans) exceeding $25,000 in value

[On January 1 of every odd-numbered year, the dollar amounts in this section may be revised]
The spouses have signed an agreement regarding the division of their assets and the assumption of their liabilities and have signed any documents or given proof of any transfers necessary to effectuate the agreement
The spouses are waiving any rights to spousal support [maintenance]
The spouses are waiving their right to appeal the dissolution of marriage and their right to a new trial upon entry of the final dissolution of marriage judgment
The spouses have read and fully understand the summary dissolution of marriage brochure available from the county clerk
Both spouses agree and desire that the marriage be dissolved
In California, official mandatory and optional divorce forms for filing for a Summary Dissolution of Marriage are available from the County Clerk of any county.

If you are considering a marriage dissolution in California, then California Divorce Forms are very important prior to any actions as you would want to know what specifics of requirements are.

Friday, August 27, 2010

Odd Wedding Customs & Traditions From Around the World

While weddings are a constant in all the world's cultures, not all weddings are created equal, and many wedding customs may seem very odd to people from other cultures. In India, a land noted for the extremely varied spiritual beliefs of its inhabitants, some wedding customs are related to a belief in evil spirits. For instance, at the conclusion of the wedding ceremony, the groom's brother will scatter flower petals on the heads of the bridal couple to ward off evil spirits. Another Indian method of driving off malign influences is to hold a coconut over the new couple's heads while circling them three times.

Food also figures in Moroccan weddings as well. Moroccan brides bathe in milk before the wedding to purify their bodies. While in the Philippines, people there employ a unique method for driving off evil spirits. The bride and everyone in her party all dress in the same color. That way, it's harder for any evil spirits present to find the bride and steal her away before the wedding ceremony occurs. In England, the bells are played as the bride and groom enter the church as a way to drive away the evil spirits. The bells toll again as the newly married couple leaves the church for the same reason.

Many common wedding customs are intended to either create good luck or ward off bad luck. The English think that Wednesday is the best day of the week on which to marry. If you marry on Monday, you will have wealth. Those who marry on Tuesday will have good health. Oddly enough, Saturday is considered the unluckiest day on which to marry, but it's also the most popular day of the week for English weddings. On the other hand, the English think that finding a spider in your wedding dress means good luck in the future. In Egypt, the women attending the wedding will pinch the bride on her wedding day to give her good luck. However, the bride's female relatives make up for this impertinence by cooking for the new couple in the first week of their marriage so that the bride and groom can relax.

Although rice has traditionally been thrown at the bride and groom as they leave the chapel after an American wedding, that custom is gradually being phased out in favor of throwing birdseed and confetti because people found out that the birds that ate the grains of rice sometimes exploded after the rice expanded inside their guts! The French don't have a similar problem since they throw wheat at the bride and groom instead of rice. In the Czech-speaking countries, they throw neither rice nor wheat; instead, they throw peas!

Forget taking your father-in-law to be out for drinks if you live in Fiji. If you want to impress a Fijian bride's father, you need to ceremonially present him with a tabua (whale's tooth), which is a symbol of wealth and status. If you live in Wales, you don't need to bother with an engagement ring for your intended either. Traditionally, Welsh men would carve a wooden spoon for their fiancées, which the girl would wear around her neck as a symbol of her engagement. The old-fashioned term "spooning" that means to court a woman or go steady is actually derived from this quaint custom. One of the oddest American courting customs was one known as "bundling," which originated in the New England region. Dutch and English settlers brought the custom over from the Old Country and it allowed engaged couples to lie in bed together before marriage (fully clothed, of course) as a way of dealing with the long, cold New England winter nights. Brrrr.

Thursday, August 26, 2010

Tips to Make Sure All Paperwork is Handled Correctly

For anyone who may have entered a country under not so clear circumstances, it is possible that an immigration attorney can help where court cases are involved. An immigration lawyer will be up to date with any new legislation and will be able to guide the person through what will probably be some very difficult times.

Of course not everyone enters the country in an odd way. Sometimes people enter with a holiday visa and then decide to stay on in the country after the expiry date. When this happens the professionals will know how to approach the problem and take care of any red tape that may come from this predicament.

There are cases where the person who has entered the country meets and marries a citizen of that country. When this occurs, it may not necessarily mean that they get a free pass to be in the country in question. Sometimes checks have to be made on their background, they also may have to sit and pass some language and knowledge tests and then apply for citizenship. If they don't want to give up their own citizenship then they will have to apply for permission to stay in the country with their marriage partner.

Children who are born to the couple in the same country automatically get the right to have a passport and citizenship so this may cause some weird legal battles where one or two members will have automatic rights while the others do not. It really is wise to work out any of the details beforehand.

Work permits too hold some kind of problems for most people. Getting them seems to be extremely difficult but the professional person will be well versed in what is needed to qualify for that very elusive green card. However, some people will start to work without the green card and this is where the problem really gets tough.

These migrant workers normally work 'under cover' so will only earn minimum wage or less. Thus, when it comes to trying to get their paperwork in order, they will have great difficulty getting funds together to fight for their right to stay in the country and work in a decent job that pays good wages.

The scenario that should be avoided is that where the illegal immigrant actually gets caught by the immigration service. This will bring all kinds of problems since the immigrant will be at a distinct disadvantage when it comes to fighting their case. In the eyes of the law, they are guilty and they know that they were in the country illegally. Although courts will try their best to work out the problem in a fair and just way, they are restricted by the law and they may have no alternative but to ban the immigrant from staying in the country. This can be devastating for all concerned so trying to work it out before it gets to this stage is probably the right thing to do.

Wednesday, August 25, 2010

The Marriage Power Struggle

One might be tempted to think that marriage power struggles are not that common, but anyone who has ever been in a relationship where one is present, is fully aware that this concept is very valid, troublesome, and as potentially destructive in this modern day, as it ever was!

Marriage power struggles go way beyond one person wanting to be the deciding factor in topics of disagreement-- a true power-struggle exists when one partner insists on "running the show." When this kind of marriage problem exists, the result is that there is really no "marriage relationship" at all, and the other partner begins to lose more and more of his or her personal selfhood.

Marriage power struggles usually begin from one person's ingrained beliefs about what is "right." Some extreme examples are when a man believes that he must assert his "dominate authority" over his wife and his home. On the opposite side of the same coin, is the idea that a "modern woman" is one-hundred-percent on her own, with little "use" for her husband's authority. Needless to say, these are not very positive beliefs on which to build a marriage relationship that will last a lifetime!

When these extreme marriage power struggles exist, unless they are resolved there can be only two possible results-- either the marriage will fail, or one spouse will fall apart. If both spouses have the willingness and motivation to resolve the marriage problems, as well as the intelligence and personality traits needed to make doing so possible, it can often be resolved. In many cases, however, marriage counseling is necessary-- because it is very difficult to shake destructive beliefs from a person when he has held them for much of his life.

There are generally two forms of marriage power struggles.

1. The type where one person insists on "running things".

2. The type where one person shuts the spouse out of his or her life.

The ability to resolve either problem rests in both spouses' willingness and readiness to acknowledge two main points: first, that a true marriage "takes two", and, as such, each person's beliefs, needs, feelings, and input are equally essential; and second, that each is an individual person who cannot be taken advantage of, silenced, or dismissed.

Whether you have been married for a short period of time or many decades, a common factor in this problem is that many fail to recognize when a marriage power struggle becomes actual abuse. The sad part is that it often exists without a person being fully aware of it.

A marriage power struggle does not have to result in physical, sexual, or even verbal violence in order to be "abuse." This fact is the reason why many-- usually, but not always, women-- are in the position of being abused for years and even decades. They believe, erroneously, that if the person has not hit them, they are not being abused.

However, even if a marriage power struggle never escalates to physical violence, other forms of abuse which often occur are equally devastating, and equally destructive. If this sounds odd, the fact is that if a person is abused for a period of time, it has a damaging effect on her mind, her emotions, and her self-esteem.

It is abuse if your spouse exerts control over you, your actions, your life; this can range from telling you what you can and cannot wear, with whom you can and cannot associate, or where you can and cannot go. It is abusive if he monitors your actions, your whereabouts, and your privacy. It is abusive if your feelings, thoughts, beliefs and needs are dismissed as irrelevant or inconsequential. It is abusive if you are frequently put-down, ridiculed, accused or threatened. It is abusive if you are made to feel that you are accountable to your spouse, or if you are made to feel weak, small, helpless, afraid, unintelligent, unattractive, or unworthy.

While these actions are the foundation of an extreme power-struggle, they are also abuse. It is not something which you should tolerate; it is not something which you should ask marriage advice from your friends about; it is a life-diminishing situation for which you need professional assistance.

Tuesday, August 24, 2010

How Getting Married Changed My Life

It is said and believed that there is a circle of life. We're born, we live and eventually we die. I believe there is more than one circle. There is definitely the first circle-we're born and we do live, but this one, rather than it ending with death, I believe, more or less closes and allows us to be re-born and begin another connecting circle.

As a child, you learn, grow, change and develop into an adult. When adulthood comes, many of us start this second circle with a formal commitment with another human being. For me, that was my husband. Getting married changed my existence-the very core of my being, the way I was to perceive myself.

Until we met, on a blind date that we both set up for ourselves, it was my intention to take over Barbara Walters position. I was more than sure that a journalist of note was who I was born to be. Not even the slightest doubt in my mind. I worked as an afternoon newsanchor at a small, insignificant radio station in the outskirts of the Los Angeles Basin. Then suddenly there was this handsome, down-to-earth man standing at my parents front door.

It may sound odd, even totally unbelievable, but within the confines of our first date (which lasted 14 hours, spanned 2 Southern California counties and in which we both met the entireties of both our families) I decided (and even though I didn't know it, so did he!) that I was going to marry this person. He became my very being. Just like that! My girlfriends were shocked-maybe even a little appalled that I was so sure about someone I had literally just met.

Four weeks later, while sitting on and breaking a rocker in my parents living room, I was proposed too with "How about it?" I asked "How about what?" He sheepishly said, "You know, marry me?"
I accepted. Less than nine months later, we became Mr. and Mrs.. That was just about 26 years ago.
We renewed our vows last year.

I gave up journalism is favor of being a wife, then a mom. He didn't ever say don't write, don't stay in your field. I had just altered my dreams. Preferring soccer games to covering arsons. Taking care of fevers and homes instead of election outcomes. Talking to and being a teacher, rather than interviewing authors, politicians and celebrities.

And now, while my love remains as strong and true as ever, a new circle is "linking" up-where I can now be still Mrs., but also go back to writing. But now the writing is family-based. It's more emotional, deeper and comes more from the heart. It's not better, it's not worse, just different- a reflection on how getting married changed my life into something that until that magical moment, I could never have imagined it ever morphing into.

Monday, August 23, 2010

Maude: Maude's Problem 3/3

Carol's odd behavior leads Maude to believe she's having an affair. When Maude learns Carol is really seeing a psychiatrist, she is determined to get to the bottom of the situation and find out why her daughter needs therapy. Maude promptly makes an enexpected visit to Carol's psychiatrist but soon finds herself being analyzed.-----Season 1--Episode 1

Sunday, August 22, 2010

Wiccan Supplies Store

In such a niche industry as selling wiccan supplies and wiccan products, there is one online store that raises above the rest on the net.

It is hard for individuals within the witchcraft, pagan, and Wiccan communities to find actual brick and mortar stores by them where they can buy wiccan supplies and wiccan items for their craft.

Moon's Light Magic is a huge online supply store for anyone who practices wicca, the occult, and witchcraft. Whether you are Pagan, Wiccan, or just spiritual in general, Moon's Light Magic online store will surely have something that will provide you the proper tools and items for your rituals and spells.

With over 2,000 different wiccan supplies, witchcraft supplies, occult supplies, and wiccan products to choose from, there certainly is no shortage of products here. Moon's Light Magic carries incense, candles, oils, spell kits, pendulums, cauldrons, statuary, herbs, and just about anything you can imagine for us that practice the Craft.

They have over 130 different tarot cards, hundreds of herbs that may be otherwise IMPOSSIBLE to find at any local store, and dozens upon dozens of ritual spell candles for those of us looking for some quick and easy spells and rituals. If you would like to have much more complex rituals, they certainly have the goods to provide this for you as well.

Shopping on their site is a breeze, and much like other e-commerce sites you just click and add items to your shopping cart. Each wiccan product has a detailed description and high quality picture which allows you to see if each product is what it is you are looking for.

Finding items on their site is just as easy, everything is fitted into proper categories and sub categories so you don't have to spend a lengthy amount of time trying to find what it is you are looking for. They also have a search option which will allow you to type in exactly what is you may be looking for and if they have that product or something similar, search results will pop up on the page.

Moon's Light Magic is an authorized secured website. Meaning that when you check out whatever sensitive information you punch in(such as credit card numbers) are completely safe from hackers. This is something that I really liked, as I can be quite hesitant when it comes down to purchasing online for this reason alone.

For shipping options Moon's Light Magic offers either UPS or USPS.

For payment they accept all major credit cards and Paypal, so it really it is up to you as to what you are comfortable with to pay through. The fastest way to get your order to you is by paying through credit card as it says on their website that they receive payment almost immediately and then the order is processed and shipped.

Orders from Moon's Light Magic is usually shipped within 2-4 days. They keep you posted through e-mail as to the status of your order. When it is being processed you will receive an e-mail saying so, and when your order had been shipped you will receive another e-mail confirmation that says your order has been shipped.

Packages always arrive professionally sealed with everything carefully protected in bubble wrap, pop corn, and other shipping material to prevent breakage of the more fragile items. You also receive a free gift with every order you place. It seems free gifts range from candles to incense, to other little baubles such as sea shells, pens, bookmarks, and more.

So whether you are looking to purchase some items for your rituals, spells, and craft, or looking for some odd and really cool items just to own, Moon's Light Magic wiccan supplies store certainly delivers.

Saturday, August 21, 2010

The 6 Best Things You Can Do to Save the Marriage If Your Partner Caught You Having an Affair

So, you've been caught having an Affair, but yet you realize you still want to Save The Marriage.

Well, you probably realise it by now, that you have a lot of work ahead of you to Save The Marriage (if indeed your partner will even take you back) Marriage is generally built on foundations of trust, and having an affair (whether it's the husband or wife) damages those trust foundations often irreparably. There's an old saying that your partner will probably be told by her friends and other family right now, that if you've done it once, you'll do it again, and rebuilding that level of trust again is going to take time, and patience.

The six best things you can do, to rebuild that trust, and eventually help to save the marriage are:

1) Put an end to the Affair. This is paramount. You won't have any chance of rekindling your marriage, and making it the kind of marriage you really want whilst you still continue the affair with the other person.

2 ) If you happen to be the partner caught cheating, (it doesn't matter too much how you were caught) you need to understand the reasons why you were cheating. There are essentially a couple of main reasons why you would have strayed, one being that you're lonely and/or unfulfilled by your partner, ie they don't give you what you think you need, and the other is that you have no self control, and easily give in to any temptation that comes your way. (You probably can't hold back from temptation in other areas of your life also) If you fall into the 'easily tempted' category, your ability to save the marriage is likely to be a bigger struggle than you think, because you're the type that will typically 'do it again'.

3) Develop an empathy for the damage you have done to your partner, and the children in your marriage. They are the unfortunate victims in this web of deceit. You won't be able to take away the hurt you have created, but you can certainly offer your deepest apologies for the hurt, and damage you have done to your family unit.

4) If necessary for the health of the marriage, move out into temporary accommodation, and allow your partner the feelings of anger, resentment, disappointment, etc. Tell them how sorry you are, and allow them to be verbally angry at you. They may end up wanting to physically harm you, or even to strike out, but use your judgement on whether this is appropriate. Revenge shouldn't be an acceptable response in this situation, although it could very well go through your partner's mind.

5) Don't whatever you do, tell your partner that the 'affair meant nothing' or that you 'never intended to hurt them' These are empty words, that count for nothing, and show a total lack of concern or respect to your partner. If the affair truly meant nothing, then why have one? It tells your partner that the affair meant more than to you than the marriage, which incidentally (because of your comment that it meant nothing) shows them that your marriage and your family meant even less.

6) Stay in touch with your partner, give them a little space (time wise) and let them know how sorry you are (not that you got caught - but that you realise what you stand to lose - and that you dont want to lose it) Send the occasional little gift, try and make the odd date, make your partner feel wanted or needed again. In other words, go though the courtship process all over again. this sort of process can take a long time to heal in your partner's mind, and so take it long, slow, steady, and persistently. This what you will need to be in order to regain what you may very well stand to lose if you do nothing.

Friday, August 20, 2010

Asking Vs Telling a Child With ODD to Complete a Task

Children with behavioral disorders are more likely to take advantage of a parent asking them to do a chore or task rather than telling them to do the chore. It leaves too much room for any child to tell their parents "no" or to begin bargaining about what they will or will not do. Children with ODD are prone to defy their parent's requests. This is not because they are trying to be difficult but because their brain automatically tells them to be defiant.

How can parents reduce or eliminate some of these defiant situations? Eliminate the options. It is not socially incorrect for a parent to tell their child to complete a task. Parents often make the mistake of asking the child to complete a task that they already know they want done. Why set yourself up for the frustration?
The parents are in the leadership position and that is their right and duty. A child does not need several choices about how or when a task is going to get completed. They need structure and guidelines.

Telling the child to put away their toys after dinner is specific and time bound. When giving the command, make sure the tone of voice and body language reflect a statement and not a question. It is confusing to the child if the tone suggests they may have an option, when, in fact, they really do not.

When a child refuses, calmly restate your command. It may be necessary to step closer to the child. This type of body positioning lets the child know you are serious. Stay firm in your direction and use your power as the leader/parent to get the task completed.

Do you want to learn exactly how to eliminate your child's out-of-control and defiant behavior without using Punishments, Time-Outs, Behavioral Plans, or Rewards?

Thursday, August 19, 2010

Marriage Infidelity and Record Keeping

One thing about marriage infidelity is unless the guilty party is so cavalier and brazen about their extra marital affair then the best way to keep the indiscretion going is to make sure their spouse remains unaware to what is going on.

Some do confess. It may be out of guilt or they get tired of living in fear of the consequences if the get caught. With other cheating spouses, it is a combination of both.

But for the ones who have no desire to get caught; planning, executing and maintaining an extramarital affair can take on the feel of a military campaign. It takes ingenuity, attention to detail, luck and the right conditions to break in their favor.

Therefore if you suspect your spouse may be cheating in many instances looking for the tell tale signs such as lipstick on the collar or extended and odd work hours may not cut it.

But no one is faultless. We all make mistakes and trying to cover your tracks when it comes to wrong doing is an inexhaustible chore. There's also a tendency to get more lax the longer the affair goes on. That feeling of self admiration for getting away with it can make an adulterer think they are invincible.

They aren't and one very good way to catch a cheating spouse is to keep track of the records.

This includes bank statements and credit cards. Why? Because very rarely are extramarital affairs a free proposition. Just like any other relationship, infidelity cost money so if you think there is something going on than watch those financial statements closely. An extra charge at a restaurant shows up alongside of a restaurant charge when you and your significant other went out. If you are not careful you could skip right over it.

Then there is the cell phone. If they've got one you may be able to gain access to it and see if there are any strange numbers floating about. If the bill arrives to your address then you can do the same thing as the financial statements.

Of course records do not necessarily have to mean bank statements and cell phone bills. It can also mean the personal journal you keep which chronicles the discrepancies and curiosities your spouse seems to be going thru. It's a good way to compare what they said today with what they said or did two months ago.

Now if all this gives you a creepy feeling, it should. You are spying on your spouse and there is no way to sugarcoat it. However if your intuition is telling you that your spouse is up to something than you may have to just grin and bear that creepy feeling. Doing a little spying and finding out whether your spouse is cheating on you is better than living with a constant feeling that something is wrong.

Wednesday, August 18, 2010

Manglik Dosh

This is one of the most talked about concepts in Indian astrology. Most of the Indian people believing in astrology fear it and are always concerned whether a Manglik Dosh is formed in their horoscope or not. And then there are some cautions which are attached to this Dosh like some astrologers say that a person having this Dosh in his or her horoscope should only marry a person who also has this Dosh in his or her horoscope, otherwise the results can be very disastrous which may even include the death of the partner who is not having this Dosh in his or her horoscope. So let's try to find out, what is this Manglik Dosh, how is a this Dosh formed in a horoscope and what are the possible bad effects of this Dosh.

In Indian astrology it is believed that if Mars is placed in any of the houses 1,2,4,7,8 or 12, in a Horoscope where the rising sign or the Ascendant is assigned the first house, Manglik Dosh is said to be formed in that horoscope. This Dosh is usually said to delay the marriage of the affected person and create disturbances even after marriage or in the worst cases it may cause the death of the spouse. And it is advised by some astrologers that a person having a Manglik Dosh in his or her horoscope should only marry a person who also has the same Dosh in his or her horoscope. According to these astrologers, the bad effects of Manglik Dosh present in a horoscope are reduced or even canceled if the person marrying the first person is also having this Dosh in his or her horoscope. As we now know the basic definition of Manglik Dosh, so let's analyze it further. And for the convenience of foreign readers I would like to mention that any person suffering from Manglik Dosh is called a Manglik. So when someone says "I'm a Manglik", it simply means that they have Manglik Dosh in their horoscope or at least they've been told so. Now let's move further.

If this Dosh is formed in a way which has been described above, then it is quite evident that 50% of the people should be suffering from the bad effects of this Dosh as the primary condition for the formation of this Dosh is the placement of Mars in the above mentioned six houses of a horoscope counting from the Ascendant. And as there are only 12 houses in a horoscope, so there is a fair chance that every second person in this world should be having this Dosh in his or her horoscope. And accordingly he or she should suffer from the bad effects of this Dosh which may be as bad as the death of the spouse.Doesn't that sound odd. And if it sounds odd to you, then let me tell you that it sounds odd to me also. I mean how can every second person on the earth can have this Dosh and if we move one step further, let's assume that randomly 50% of the people having Manglik Dosh in their horoscope are married to a person having Manglik Dosh in their horoscope and 50% of the people having Manglik Dosh in their horoscope are married to a person not having a Manglik Dosh in their horoscope. After doing the calculations it can be found that out of all the matches made in the world, 25% couples are a Manglik-Manglik couple, 50% of the couples are a Manglik-NonManglik couple and the rest of the 25% couples are a NonManglik-NonManglik couple. This would mean that the marriage of every second person on the earth is delayed and disturbed even to the point where the partner may die. And we are only talking about one concept named Mangllik Dosh. And there are other very powerful concepts like Kaal Sarp Dosh which can do far more damage than Manglik Dosh if it is strong. And taking into consideration all the other possible Bad aspects and Bad Yogas formed in an average horoscope, we can reach an estimate that 75% of the people on this earth are having great difficulties in getting married, their married life is very much disturbed and in the worst case their partner may die. Isn't this figure a bit too big too be true. Well, according to me, it is. So let's further analyze the actual scope of this Dosh.

In my opinion, the placement of Mars in the above mentioned houses is not the sole criteria for predicting this Dosh in someone's horoscope. Mars placed in any of the above mentioned house can do a number of things to the native. It can actually form a Manglik Dosh, it can remain silent and do nothing and then on the contrary it can form a Manglik Yoga. Now what is this Manglik Yoga. This is just the opposite of Manglik Dosh, and if Mars placed in the above mentioned houses in a horoscope is giving its beneficial results, then Manglik Yoga is formed instead of Manglik Dosh. The results of a Manglik Yoga are exactly the opposite of a Manglik Dosh and would include timely marriage and happiness in married life among other things. I've personally seen many cases in which a Manglik Yoga is formed in the horoscope and accordingly the persons have been blessed with all the good results of this Yoga. So it is very important to check first whether there is a Manglik Dosh, a Manglik Yoga or Mars is just placed in the above mentioned houses in a horoscope and is not concerned at all with the marriage or married life of the person. And even if the presence of a Manglik Dosh is confirmed in a horoscope, the strength and timing of impact for this Dosh is also to be considered before predicting the results of this Dosh. And if most of the people reading this article have started thinking by now that Manglik Dosh is not a thing to be afraid of, then let me tell you that if a Manglik Dosh with a strength more than 50-60% is found in a horoscope, it can do potential damages regarding the marriage or married life of the person having this Dosh. I would like to mention here again that I have personally witnessed cases of strong Manglik Dosh and the quantum of damages done was very high including divorces, deaths of the spouses and facing of trials being accused for the murder of spouses. But such strong cases of this Dosh are a rare phenomenon and only a few people have such a strong Manglik Dosh. And these bad effects can only be reduced with the help of astrological remedies which would generally include wearing of some gemstones and donating some specific things to some specific persons or places. So next time you're afraid of some amateur astrologer telling you that you have a Manglik Dosh in your horoscope, don't bother too much and just chill out. It can very well be nothing at all or the Manglik Yoga itself which is the ultimate bliss a person can have regarding his or her marriage or married life.

Tuesday, August 17, 2010

Night Shift

A police officer in a marriage crisis stumbles across a drunken and confused man in the middle of the night and finds an odd parallel to his life. A short film I produced, wrote, and directed this past summer for my Narrative Video Production class at Drexel University. Hope you enjoy. www.imdb.com

Monday, August 16, 2010

The Most Important Marriage Advice You'll Ever Get

As you know, there's a lot of free marriage advice available to couples, particularly on the internet. Since the majority of marriage advice you'll get is from family and friends, you'll most likely narrow down what you're willing to hear, to the people you respect most.

Let's suppose your uncle who often finds himself propped up with adult beverages, gives you marriage advice that sounds like, "Lookit. Ya gotta get smart and jus do what I do. Keep yur mouth shut and just say uh hu, ya, you bet, to anything she/he says. THAT's how you stay married." Certainly not much help, but even sober opinions from the personal experience of several family members probably won't qualify as the best marriage advice you'll ever get. It will be limited to their own experience with their own marriage, or in many cases marriages.

So as we look past the limited viewpoints of friends, family and coworkers about marriage, we move out to people who make a living talking with married couples in crisis. These people are more objective and have seen a lot of married couples so they probably can give better, or at least more objective marriage advice. We start with marriage counselors. Marriage counseling has been around as a profession for the last forty years. When a profession has been around THAT long, you'd think they would have figured out the best marriage advice of all. But unfortunately, the profession started out on the wrong foot. They began with the belief that people needed to talk about their problems in order to find a solution. The odd part about this is that it has proven to be wrong. The more couples talk about their problems, the more problems they believe they have. As a consequence, many marriage counseling and couples therapy sessions have encouraged, rather than discouraged divorce. Because hot emotions intensify in these sessions, the couples stomp out the office, one spouse feeling validated, the other feeling the brunt of the blame. But ultimately, the couple will never return. The majority of marriage counselors, as it turns out, are really therapists who enjoy talking to one individual. That's where they find their real calling.

Let's look at another form of marriage advice; self help authors and life coaches. These people often work by telephone coaching groups, couples and individuals on pretty much the gambit of living what they call a successful life. The field is too new and disorganized to give these individuals any kind of rating system, so you just have to look and see who you like by reading what they write, watching their video's, reading their blogs, etc.

In this world of life coaching, there are many opinions as well, but these people have decided to get into this growing field because of their own life experience. Now here the problem becomes who can you trust? I'm going to assume that you want the best marriage advice you'll ever get, so what would that be and who would this advice be aimed at?

There are two audiences for the best marriage advice you'll ever get.

1) People who are not married but want to be.

2) People who are already married.

Both of these people can't have the same answer, so let me separate my responses, starting with the not yet married.

NOT YET MARRIED BUT WANT TO BE: You may have previously been married but lost your spouse through death or through divorce, but you are now in a place where marriage is on your mind.

Here is my advice to you:

It is a well researched and long proven fact that the quality of your marriage is actually decided in your first 10 years of childhood. For those of you who are surprised by this, look at what neurological scientists have discovered about the brain over the last 15 years.

Their research shows that the brain is the only organ that starts large at birth, and then shrinks with age. This shrinking is created when "synaptic connections", (these are brain cells that connect to other brain cells) which number in the billions within the first three years of life, begin to die off.

But here's the interesting point. The synaptic connections that remain are the ones that are secured by the behavior of the adults who raise you. Those brain cells remain because they live on to carry your instructions on how to live life.

If your parents were frustrated and angry people, these are the "instructions" you have on how to deal with situations. If they were calm, pleasant and rational people, you are now carrying around in your brain, the instructions that allow you to instantly handle situations in the very same way. Now it's time to be an adult and get married. As it turns out, most of us wind up looking for what we don't have ourselves, and we do it without any thought. A softhearted woman looks for a man with strength, only to find one with a hot temper after they're married. A quiet, keep to himself guy finds great attraction in an outgoing funny girl, only to learn that she wants him to love the social life like she does. The greatest marriage advice I can give you after 14 years of working with married couples is to find out all about the childhood of the one you intend to commit to. What you're after specifically is to find a man/woman who had a good father in those first ten years. The ideal father is a dad who took a genuine interest in all the things that mattered to his child. Your best choice in a spouse is a man/woman who would rate their dad a 90% to 100% on a "good dad scale". What you get when you find the son/daughter of a really great dad is emotional stability. That means he/she is able to stay calm, rational, clear headed and productive when discussing difficult topics. The greatest marriage advice you'll ever get is to ONLY marry the product of a great dad.

IF YOU'RE ALREADY MARRIED: Once you marry, this advice changes radically. You read the above answer and realize "Hey! I didn't marry the product of a great dad!" Here's an interesting research fact for you. Of all the people who have gone through my marriage course, 98% of them have at least one member of the duo who comes from troubled fathers. More to the point, I have virtually NEVER had a couple come to me with marriage problems, when BOTH of them came from great fathers! What a wakeup call! If you want to know more about Real Dads, do a Google search for The Secret Of Becoming A Real Dad. You'll find an article with more insight about what amounts to, the most important marriage advice you'll ever get. And if you would like to understand more about how your brain was formed by the adults who raised you, you can get a copy of my special report, "Your Invisible Lifestyle: Is It Helping or Hurting Your Marriage?" by doing a quick search on google for that title.

Sunday, August 15, 2010

the odd brace tv series

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Saturday, August 14, 2010

4 Reasons Why Mediations Don't Work

Not all mediations will work.  Not all mediations should work, sometimes failing is the best result that could to both parties because it will require the parties to rethink why they decided to use mediation.  Sounds odd, well it isn't.  Here are four reasons that can cause your mediation to fail.



Timing - Rushing into a mediation is not beneficial for either party or any of the parties (parties if more than two parties) and can cause the mediation to fail.  Most mediation professionals agree that it is best to mediation prior to litigation or arbitration, but that could be years between the event and the actually litigation.  In some few cases, mediation should occur very soon after the event that causes the disagreement, such as in elder mediation cases .  Understanding that timing is important in scheduling a mediation or offering mediation as an alternative will increase the settlement rate. 

Location - Choosing the wrong location for a mediation can cause your mediation not to work, especially if the location is hosted at a non-neutral site (such as the office of one of the parties).

Frame of Mind - If you are attending a mediation and if you know it won't work, then it won't.  You must be willing for the process to work.

Mediator - Choosing the wrong mediator can cause the mediation to fail.  Not all mediators should mediate all cases.  Mediators specialize in certain types of cases for a reason, they have a background that can help a mediation succeed.  Choose a mediator that is well versed in your case.

Friday, August 13, 2010

Teddy Reynolds - "Puppy Dogs" (1958)

TEDDY REYNOLDS (1931-1998). Teddy Reynolds, blues pianist, songwriter, and singer, was born in Houston on July 12, 1931. He was the son of Ora Lee Reynolds Miles. Reynolds recorded numerous tracks but is most famous among blues aficionados for his studio work and touring with some of the top Texas-based artists of his generation, including Bobby Bland, Texas Johnny Brown, Johnny Copeland, Grady Gaines, Clarence Green, Peppermint Harris (Harrison D. Nelsonqv), Joe "Guitar" Hughes, BB King, and Phillip Walker. Reynolds was raised by his maternal grandmother, Hallie Robinson, in the southeast Houston neighborhood known as the Third Ward. In an interview he reported that his father, also named Theodore, had played piano in "bootleg" houses in Houston. Teddy attended Blackshear Elementary School but discontinued his formal education in the fifth grade. He survived by working a variety of odd jobs until his mid-teens, when his skills on piano, which he had learned at his grandmother's house, earned him a chance to perform in a Third Ward nightclub called Shady's Playhouse (originally Jeff's Playhouse). He soon became a member of the house band there and formed key friendships with guitarists such as Johnny Copeland and Albert Collins,qqv as well as with the man Reynolds always credited as his most significant music teacher, Henry Hayes, plus songwriting collaborator Joe Medwick and pianists Charles Brownqv and Amos Milburn. In 1950 Reynolds first recorded in Houston, for the ...

Thursday, August 12, 2010

10 Things Your Wife Wish You Knew Not

1. Your Wife Wants You To Show Her Love - Every woman wants her husband to love her and show her love but wishes that you know it not. Reason? Husbands tend to pretend a lot to their wives, acting scripts that a not written by the heart. Many husbands show their wives love because they see it do the whole work on their wives. Cheating husbands take advantage of a woman's vulnerability to manipulate and twist their will so that it falls in line with what they want. Since manipulating people for one's own selfish desire is wrong and contradicts God's commandment to love one another (John 15:12-17), husbands should learn to do things that will make their wives know they love them naturally - buying them gifts, taking them out, spending quality time with them and always reminding them of how much they love them and in so doing they will be obeying the will of God (Eph. 5:25).

2. Your Wife Needs You To Be Supportive - A supportive husband is every woman's desire. Women do not go on showing their husbands that they desire their support. To many of them, it makes them feel cheap. Husbands should not compromise their support for their wives. They should encourage them to try to better themselves either spiritually, intellectually, emotionally or physically. Husbands should help their wives to conquer their tears. They should also support their wives' goals and help them maintain focus and accomplish their dreams, not until they demand for it.

3. Your Wife Needs A Companion And Not Just A Husband - Your wife needs you to be a companion to her. Husbands should make themselves available always to their wives. Some men make their wives feel ignorant or illogical when they voice their opinion and this is hurting, rather they should listen to them and help to explore their inner minds. Husbands should share the thoughts of their wives, their feelings, fears and concerns and plan the future together. As a husband, duty demands that you get involved in your wife's day-to-day activities so that she can be proud to have you as a companion.

4. Your Wife Wants You To Be Sensitive - Women want their husbands to be sensitive to their needs and feelings. Husbands should not be harsh to their wives in public; they should not criticize them in front of others or behind them. Men should learn to spend quality time with their wives and children and always remember to ask them about their day. Every husband should always let his wife know when he's going to be late. A sensitive man can get the best out of his woman. It is very difficult for a wife to confront a man with this fact, unless she's prepared for a fight.

5. Your Wife Wants To Be Appreciated - Every woman wants to be appreciated by her husband. No man needs to be reminded about this, and so the woman does not owe it as a duty to remind her man about it. Husbands should frequently compliment their wives and thank them for all the good things that they do that make them feel loved. Every husband should learn to appreciate his wife for keeping the home, preparing the good meals and taking care of the children. Husbands should always appreciate their wives' appearance by telling them how good they look from time to time.

6. Your Wife Wants You To Be Well Dressed - Women want their husband's to be always well dressed and presentable. Men should learn to dress in colours that match and not just wearing all sorts of colours. They should dress appropriately for different occasions. Husbands should get a good body spray and avoid smelling sweat cause, this puts their woman off. Every woman is proud to show off her well-dressed husband.

7. Your Wife Wants A Responsible And Reliable Husband - Every woman wants a man that is responsible, yet it looks very odd for her to suggest it to her husband. She wishes you never noticed that she desires it. Since it is the duty of husbands to bear the responsibility of the home, every man should be able to provide the basic needs for household so as to earn the respect of his wife.

8. Women Want Their Men To Be Affectionate - Every woman wants her husband to be affectionate. Husbands should not withhold their affections in public places because it makes it seem as though they are ashamed to be with their wives. Men should be caring, nurturing and sometimes, playful. Wives want to be treated like absolute treasures. Men should not shut off their women by watching too much TV or reading newspapers.

9. Women Expect Their Men To Be God-Fearing - Wives want their husbands to pray for and with them. They want them to go to Church together, have family devotion or Bible study together, etc. Husbands should be the spiritual leaders of their household (Hebrew 3:4).

10. Your Woman Wants You To Be Romantic - A romantic man is the dream of every woman. Women want men that can sweep them off their feet. Men should learn how to tell their wives how much they adore them, as often as possible; give them surprises, such as gifts, outings and romantic notes; hug them sometimes, not just for the sake of hugging, but as a sign of their love for them. However, every man should discover or ask his wife about her sexual needs and be ready to fulfill them. Husbands should remember to celebrate anniversaries, birthdays and other special occasions. A romantic man will surely bring out the woman in his wife.

Sure, there's much more your wives wish you knew not about them. Those things that can make them feel inferior before your presence or those things can jeopardize the joyful moments in their relationship with you. To grow into a man of love (the toast of your wife), every man should make the Word of God the final authority in his life. In addition to that, husbands should learn to get closer to their wives to discover what they like, so as to have a blissful marriage.

Wednesday, August 11, 2010

[ goodbye; 3OO+

WARNING. WARNING. THIS VIDEO CONTAINS BBS SPOILERS. PLEASE FLEE FROM THIS VIDEO IF YOU DO NOT WANT TO SEE THEM. ...This video will now self destruct. -jk no not really- ...7...hours... no! 8 hours to render.. i stood up for bout 6 of them but crashed at like... 3 am perhaps. it is now 8:36 am. am ia dead monkey? hell yus. i have regents today so being up with no sleep = not good. all cause i wanted hd. neeever again. xDD but lets move on to the main point shall we; IT'S A FULL VIDEO! -shot- i cut one minute of the song... but it's still a full vid! xD don't you dare rain on my parade. please pretend the scene's she's hugging sora is ven. and clips with roxas, yeah they're ven. ITS VENXKAI PEOPLES! -shotshot- i got really lazy at the end up there's a basic story to it; noblesse oblige; 1. Whoever claims to be noble must conduct himself nobly. 2. (Figuratively) One must act in a fashion that conforms to one's position, and with the reputation that one has earned. kairi's side is pretty simple; as a princess she has an obligation to do as she is told to benefit her own family and her land. even if that means getting into a marriage with someone whom she does no to. arranged marriage. very odd to hear that in today's world. ven, who is kairi's lover at the time, refuses to let kairi get married to noctis. yes, noctis. why noctis? because he's a bad boy and i love him. B| he knows noctis wants him dead. out of the picture; gone. but the worse thing to come from this was that ...

Tuesday, August 10, 2010

Wedding Traditions In Other Cultures

In the United States, we have several wedding traditions that may look odd to someone who is not accustomed to them. Removing the garter could be considered crude by many cultures, and throwing the boutique would probably look very strange as well, and this is not even considering our practice of decorating the newlyweds' vehicle, oftentimes with aluminum cans dragging behind. While these practices may be seen as quaint to people from other cultures, they have good intentions and are the customs we are used to. Many people choose to include aspects of weddings from other cultures into their own weddings. Although these African wedding practices are normal in their culture, they would be considered extremely odd in other parts of the world.

Dowry is a very common wedding tradition in many parts of Africa. A dowry is basically a negotiated gift that the groom gives to the bride's family. Although the amount of dowry can be determined a number of ways, it is very common for the dowry to connected to the bride's overall desirability, as far as beauty, education, class, etc. In some cases, especially with arranged marriages, this can get out of hand and monetary value can determine who a girl gets married to.

There are several African ceremonial traditions that would be considered outlandish in many parts of the world. One African tribe has a number of "good luck" practices that would be considered anything but that in most places. As part of the marriage, the bride must gather all of her possessions and set off for the groom's home on foot, sometimes walking very far. To bless the marriage with good luck, the bride's father will spit on her before she begins her journey. When she arrives at the groom's home, the women of his family, once again as a good luck charm, will yell insults at the bride.

The honeymoon can also be very different in African cultures. In one tribe, a woman elder gives the bride pointers on how to please her husband and will hide under the bed to ensure everything goes smoothly. Other tribes do not consider the marriage final on the wedding day. Marriage may not be official until two children are born. Some tribes have "temporary marriages" in which the bride receives a salary and has no rights to inheritance.

Although you may feel stressed planning for your wedding, or even the prospect of getting married, you can be glad that many of our wedding traditions are relatively tame. You can rest assured that there should be no excessive walking involved, no one being spit on, hopefully no insults from your new in-laws, nobody under the bed during your honeymoon, as well as knowing that your marriage is complete on the day of the wedding. Even though women will always compare wedding rings, it is preferable to bragging about their family getting a dowry of "a used car, a riding lawn mower, Rocky DVD box set, and a gift certificate to Red Lobster."

Monday, August 9, 2010

Our First Year of Marriage

We started our relationship soon after I left my ex-husband. I was still terrified of any conflict.

 I remember one instance where he had made me dinner and was upset because the trout he has making had stuck to the pan. He was a little angry and coming out of the relationship I had been in I retreated to my bedroom. He came to the door apologetically and reminded me he was not violent or  the enemy. Dinner was on the table waiting for me.

Well that was over 17 years ago now,  and we have been married a little over  a year.  It has been a rocky road for us.

In this past 7  years we have had so many stressful situations in our lives. With moving several time between 3 different cities, changing jobs, losing jobs, changing schools for our daughter, several deaths of close family and friends and my brush with death because of complications of my Multiple Sclerosis.

I believe last year was the toughest we have ever had together between the frequent stays in the hospital for me months at a time and deciding to marry in the midst of it all we never gave up on each other or the power of the love we had for each other or with family and friends.

Even when I thought I would die those various times I never lost sight of the fact that I had the love of God, family and friends past and present to believe in.

The wedding was perfect with the help  of so many family, friends and my beloved there looking so handsome I was in awe. I am so happy  that I still believe in true love after one bad experience with marriage.

Sunday, August 8, 2010

Socially Unacceptable Behaviour at Traffic Lights

There's something odd about people when they get into their cars and hit the road on their way to or from somewhere. Particularly men at traffic lights. I think men feel themselves sufficiently isolated and alone and don't seem to be socially aware of other occupants in the cars around them.

Cars, even fogged up cars in bad weather, still allow people to see out enough from their windows when they look around them at traffic lights, to see what others are doing. Most people, drivers and passengers, sit patiently and wait for the lights to change before moving off. However, some men take this opportunity to have a good old nose pick. I watched one fellow the other day, I thought he was trying to mine his nose.

This is a seriously gross, socially unacceptable, habit anywhere but in public it is a totally unacceptable practice.

When people are in their cars on the street, even when the vehicle is only moving slowly in traffic, people around them can still see in. Passengers have no where to look except out their windows at people in the cars around them and to be subjected to a "nose picker" is enough to make one want to throw up.

Car windows, unless they are highly tinted, still allow others to see inside a vehicle. Here in Australia, many cars have tinted windows all around to cut down on glare and to try to reflect some of the suns rays away from inside the vehicle. There is legislation covering the percentage of tinting every car can have because if it is too dark, then driver visibility out is reduced.

Even with slightly tinted windows, people can still see inside a vehicle, so to remain socially acceptable to those travelling around you, it is a good idea to be aware of what you are doing and what others can see you doing.

Nose picking is one seriously gross, unacceptable and definitely unsociable habit.

The other thing I see too frequently at traffic lights are "the spitters". "The spitters" are those men who hawk up nasal congestion into a big gob of phlegm and spit it out onto the street. This is another gross habit that actually has ramifications far worse than just being a socially unacceptable practice.

One of the reasons why TB (Tuberculosis) has largely been eradicated from western society is because we stopped spitting on the street. These "spitters" are endangering everyone's health and well-being through spitting and I for one find this more than socially unacceptable. No one has the right to endanger my health with their bad habits. I have enough of my own and don't need theirs. My bad habits don't endanger anyone's life or make anyone around me feel nauseous and want to throw up.

So if you are a man who has unacceptable social habits when you next stop at traffic lights please remember reading this article. Our world and environment will thank you.

Saturday, August 7, 2010

STRANGE LIVES

Strange Lives - What Career? Margery now doubts the Officer`s marriage proposal. Will her future career be in tattered ruins? Only her best friend Darleen can qualm her hysteria... (Strange Lives, The Soap Opera, was recorded on some 20 odd cassette tapes at the tender age of 14. Decades after the fact, these recordings have been unearthed and recently filmed on location for your viewing pleasure.)

Friday, August 6, 2010

"Genocide" and the Bible Part 27 Midianites Numbers 31

What about Gods cruelty against the Midianites? The incident recorded in Numbers 31 is frequently mentioned as an illustration of Gods cruelty or His nature as a human fabrication of twisted minds. The passage is a troubling one, for many reasons, but there are many misconceptions about what actually happened in the text as well. Consider some of the statements people have sent into me about this event: Skeptic statement, Throughout time, mankind has been at war with itself. Frequently, these conflicts are over the possession of land, and often use religious decree as reasoning for war. Because of the atrocities prevalent in war, mankind has created rules of engagement to determine punishable war crimes. How ironic is it that these obvious criminal war time acts were not only perpetrated by the children of Israel, but were commanded or condoned by their God. Additionally, allowances were made for the Israelite men to keep attractive female captives for themselves for carnal purposes. These are some serious accusations to make against the God portrayed in the bible, and allegations that should disturb the hearts of all warm-blooded people. Right off the bat, though, there are several obvious historical errors in these brief statements, and several assumptions that have no warrant whatsoever in either the text itself, or in the historical background of the ANE. The passage will be difficult enough to our sensibilities as it is, but lets first weed out the chaff among these ...

Thursday, August 5, 2010

Chinese Life & Marriage to a foreigner in Shanghai China

Living in Shanghai offers a unique experience that will remain deep in the memory. This article is intended as a guide for those, Shanghai and other parts of China to visit first and what they can expect from this visit an unsafe.

Shanghai serves as an ideal place for a foreigner to live and breathe, in China, but without the feeling of isolation. And 'established for the Western taste the needs of thousands of foreigners who live alone in cities, but alsoMany of the Chinese population, which has started to enjoy the same luxury.

China is a growing, developing country, more than any other, in fact, Shanghai and best represents the rise of many young Chinese who will lead the economy of heaven. realized with the added bonus of foreign investment by foreign companies in tourism and city is quite an expensive place to live, really likes about the plan in London and Paris key ITS areas. The huge push of a buttonChina's population adds pressure to the overheating of the economy and the demand for land and housing. Companies in China can greatly benefit from a huge pool of workers and foreign companies are beginning a wider selection of English-Chinese workers, who are learning the language of an earlier age to get.

Living or traveling outside of Shanghai and other large cities can experience a much more difficult with a few characters are available in a place other than China, and some people mayCommunicate. This is an interpreter or some basic skills in China is advisable for visitors to remote areas of the vast country.

Some of the best places to go outside the major cities of Shanghai, Beijing, Hong Kong and Guangzhou are the western provinces of independent Tibet and Xinjiang and southern Yunnan.

Many foreigners in China to marry Chinese during their stay and require much work to do paperwork. Several States havedifferent requirements and Chinese blogs are usually the best way to find out what of those who has already successfully required. Obtaining Passports for Chinese citizens can be a tedious effort, and the council shall apply to this process. Each time the voice of the Chinese bureaucracy, it is advisable to use strong corrupt local friends and family to communicate and negotiate on the license applications and even the odd was certainly known to speed things upon

Overall, a short trip or a long time in China working for foreigners who want to experience some 'interesting culture and friendly people are recommended.

Wednesday, August 4, 2010

4 Simple Suggestions For Parenting ADHD Children to Produce Positive Short and Long Term Results

For those of us that have been through the experience of parenting ADHD children we can look back and think about what we should have done, or could have done better. But if you are in the mist of parenting ADHD children all of the sudden there may be no clear cut solutions and you may feel as if no matter what you do things simply continue to go downhill.

I am here to say that from my perspective there aren't any really easy quick fix solutions that can turn your disorganized daydreaming academically challenged ADHD child into a model picture of focus and academic prowess. Nevertheless, I will offer up a few idea that worked well for me and hopefully you will be able to extract a few pearls of wisdom to help you both now and later on.

*My first suggestion is to sit down, when you have a quiet moment or two, and list the areas you believe your child could improve on. Is it academically? Is it socially? Do you wish your ADHD child got into trouble less often? Or is it all of the above and more?

When writing this list be honest with yourself. I know for me I tended to be less than honest, always giving them a break, thus reducing my effectiveness in parenting my ADHD children. Don't do it! It will only hurt in the long run.

Once you have determined the problems you are trying to solve then it is time to set expectations and rules. This is not done by yelling, screaming, hitting, teasing, or arguing. Simply be level headed, loving, and straight to the point.

Remember children with attention deficit hyperactivity disorder not only tend to exhibit the primary symptoms of inattention, impulsivity, and hyperactivity but also can easily develop secondary mental health concerns such as low self esteem, hopelessness, and depression.

Surprisingly, it is the secondary symptoms that may produce the bulk of the challenges involved in treatment going forward, so parenting ADHD children is as much as avoiding the secondary symptoms, when possible, as it is about treating the primary symptoms.

*My second suggestion is don't be vague when laying down the rules. One of the common behaviors exhibited by ADHD children is to only hear what they want to hear. It is also important for everyone to be on the same page when parenting ADHD children. Nothing is more confusing to those with attention deficit disorder than to receive mixed messages at home or at school. In other words one parent or teacher laying down the law only to have another tell them it is not the case. Do your best to get everyone on the same page.

*My third suggestion is to reward positive behavior and always reinforce your love for them. When your child shows improvement in school, in their behavior, or begins to interact better socially, let them know how great you think they are doing. Give them a big hug and tell them how much you love them. If something more formal is your cup of tea reward their positive behavior with a trip to see a movie, buy them that video game they have been wanting, or let them stay up a little later than normal doing something they enjoy.

*My fourth suggestion for parenting ADHD children, and the one that seemed to do the trick for my kids was getting them involved in athletics. Athletics seem to be very helpful in improving attention span and social skills. It also may make them focus on personal goals they want to achieve. Some ADHD children will gravitate toward team sports, others will tend to like individual sports better. It was my experience that both types of sports proved beneficial.

In summary, parenting ADHD children has it challenges and takes on a different form depending on the personalities involved. Hopefully, you will be able to use the above ides to find the key that unlocks the door to your child's academic and social success.

Monday, August 2, 2010

Can You Spot The Signs Of Cheating In Marriage?

Signs of cheating in marriage are hard to spot when you are unsure what to look for from your husband. When he is breaking the vows of marriage and committing adultery, he will do everything in his power to hide it. Men are very conniving and if you think your trust has been betrayed please read on.

Knowing what to look for will help you determine once and for all if your husband really has another women. It can be very hard for you when you learn the truth, but once it's out in the open you can rectify the situation much quicker and put your conscious to rest.

Here are some of the signs you can discover to catch your husband cheating on you.

Other woman's perfume - Is it just a co-workers perfume or is he spending time with another women. If he starts to smell of another's perfume when he has been out for awhile, it's a strong indicator of cheating. Men are good at hiding this, so look for him washing clothes late at night, or heading straight to the wash room when he gets home.
Leaving the house at odd hours - He could be running to the store to grab a six pack, or he is running out to be with her for a few minutes. Watch for your husband leaving the house at weird hours. Cheating men and women for that matter will pop in and out of the house at strange hours. Does he makes lame excuses to leave the house. It's one of the signs of cheating in marriage.
No more arguing - Has he become docile when arguments arise? Men do not like confrontation when they are cheating, they will do whatever it takes to avoid any type of heated confrontation. On the other hand, if he is constantly starting fights with you, it might be him making excuses to get out of the house.
Suspicious cell phone behavior - Has he become possessive over his cell phone? Does he keep it close by whenever you're nearby? Men who cheat use their cell phone to communicate with the other women. Unless they are totally stupid and use their home phone number. Look for him erasing his caller id and messages constantly. It's a big sign of infidelity.

Hopefully you never run into any of these signs. It's sad when a spouse cheats. Infidelity is one of the biggest problems in any relationship should it arise. Look for these signs of cheating in marriage if you think your husband is cheating on you.

Sunday, August 1, 2010

5 Steps to Ease Your Depression After Divorce

Beating depression that comes with a divorce is tough, but certainly not impossible. The end of a relationship as important as marriage has a shattering effect on the person who faces it. If you or a close friend has divorced and is having problems coping with it, it may mean that he or she is depressed. If the mourning or grieving continues even after the divorce has been over and done with for months on end, the concerned person may need treatment. Here are 5 steps of treating depression naturally during divorce.

Step #1

It is important that you let off the steam. It is natural that you are going to feel hurt, betrayed and powerless after a divorce. Find an outlet where you can let off steam safely. Remember its okay to cry. Why not buy a punching bag and hit it when you feel angry and frustrated. You can scream into a pillow. When you make a concerted effort to let go of the anger, you will be actually taking a step forward to treating your depression. With time you will find the negative emotions starting to fade.

Step #2

Practice living well. It may sound odd but depressed people often don't want to get out of bed even if it is take a shower. Make sure you do and also change your clothes everyday. Neglecting to take care of one self is one of the most common symptoms of depression. Get adequate sleep at night but don't spend the entire day in bed brooding. Exercising everyday is a natural depression cure. Get some sunshine and fresh air and see your blues disappearing.

Step #3

Don't start bad habits to get over your divorce. It will not only worsen your depressive symptoms, it will also be bad for you in the long run. Starting to smoke, drink and do drugs is the worst thing that could happen to anyone after a divorce. Instead take up a new hobby which you have been never been able to indulge in because your ex did not approve of it. Spend time with friends and family who love and support you.

Step #4

Another way of fighting depression and anxiety is to eat well. Changing dietary habits by choosing tea instead of coffee, brown bread over white bread, chicken and fish over red meat, and eating lots of green vegetables is a natural cure for depression. Drink at least 8 glasses of water everyday. If you think it is necessary, take an herbal supplement everyday.

Step #5

A change of scenery may sound superfluous but is a wonderful way of treating depression. Why not buy new curtains for your home and paint your bedroom in a color which you love but your ex detested? You can also move the furniture around to let in natural sunlight. The therapeutic effect of these small things is going to be tremendous.

Beat depression during divorce using these 5 simple steps and see the change in you!