Marriage Cheating Signs

The 8 telltale clues you won't want to miss!

Finding out that your husband or wife is being unfaithful is a devastating time that no one ever wants to experience for themselves. However, it's definitely much better to be aware of the situation and know what's going on instead of being betrayed, lied to, and possibly in danger of contracting a sexually transmitted disease.

Here are some of the most common signs of cheating in the marriage you should be aware of:

1. Secretive phone use: Being secretive while on the phone and receiving or making strange calls on the cell phone are two of the top signs of infidelity.

2. Sudden changes in work hours: If, for years your spouse has worked a certain schedule and now it's changed or varies from day to day, this may indicate something isn't as it appears.

3. Picking fights: Cheating spouses often start arguments with their mates for one of several reasons, the most common of which being guilt. Pay attention if all of a sudden your spouse seems to pick fights, criticize your every move, and generally seem argumentative for some odd reason.

4. Suspicious charges credit card accounts: Strange charges on credit card accounts are definitely red flags to watch for, making a good case for spouses having joint accounts as opposed to separate bank or credit card accounts.

5. Extra miles on the car your spouse uses the most: Watch for unaccounted for miles and extra wear and tear on your spouse's car. Needing gas more frequently should also be questioned if before, your husband or wife usually only needed to fill up the car a few times per month, but now it's far more often.

6. Spending more time online: Every time you're looking for your spouse, there they are logged on the computer again. If they're suddenly nervous or closing open windows and websites as soon as you near the monitor, they may be doing something worth looking into.

7. Acting defensive: If your partner acts defensive anytime anyone, especially you, brings up the subject of cheating or being unfaithful in a marriage, you may definitely want to find out why. In most, but not all, cases, when someone acts overly defensive of a particular subject, there's usually a good reason behind the odd behavior.

8. Changes in your sex life: Changes in one's sex life, most usually a noticeable decrease in frequency, may be a sign your spouse is being intimate with someone else. However, it should be said that there could be other valid reasons behind a lack of interest in sex, including certain medications or medical problems, as well as stress, tension, and problems at work. Opening the lines of communication between you and your spouse is the only sure way to get to the bottom of this important issue.

While any one of these signs on its own may be something totally innocent and completely explainable, a few of them added together do indeed point to infidelity. You certainly don't want to accuse your spouse unnecessarily, nor do you want to sit idly by while they're cheating either, making it important to have patience, waiting until your suspicions are confirmed before confronting them and making your plans for the future.