Marriage Infidelity and Record Keeping

One thing about marriage infidelity is unless the guilty party is so cavalier and brazen about their extra marital affair then the best way to keep the indiscretion going is to make sure their spouse remains unaware to what is going on.

Some do confess. It may be out of guilt or they get tired of living in fear of the consequences if the get caught. With other cheating spouses, it is a combination of both.

But for the ones who have no desire to get caught; planning, executing and maintaining an extramarital affair can take on the feel of a military campaign. It takes ingenuity, attention to detail, luck and the right conditions to break in their favor.

Therefore if you suspect your spouse may be cheating in many instances looking for the tell tale signs such as lipstick on the collar or extended and odd work hours may not cut it.

But no one is faultless. We all make mistakes and trying to cover your tracks when it comes to wrong doing is an inexhaustible chore. There's also a tendency to get more lax the longer the affair goes on. That feeling of self admiration for getting away with it can make an adulterer think they are invincible.

They aren't and one very good way to catch a cheating spouse is to keep track of the records.

This includes bank statements and credit cards. Why? Because very rarely are extramarital affairs a free proposition. Just like any other relationship, infidelity cost money so if you think there is something going on than watch those financial statements closely. An extra charge at a restaurant shows up alongside of a restaurant charge when you and your significant other went out. If you are not careful you could skip right over it.

Then there is the cell phone. If they've got one you may be able to gain access to it and see if there are any strange numbers floating about. If the bill arrives to your address then you can do the same thing as the financial statements.

Of course records do not necessarily have to mean bank statements and cell phone bills. It can also mean the personal journal you keep which chronicles the discrepancies and curiosities your spouse seems to be going thru. It's a good way to compare what they said today with what they said or did two months ago.

Now if all this gives you a creepy feeling, it should. You are spying on your spouse and there is no way to sugarcoat it. However if your intuition is telling you that your spouse is up to something than you may have to just grin and bear that creepy feeling. Doing a little spying and finding out whether your spouse is cheating on you is better than living with a constant feeling that something is wrong.